About me

I spent a lot of my life feeling like I didn't know what I was doing and wondering how everyone else seemed to know something I didn't. I knew there were things I should do, should want, should be, but a lot of those "normal" things never made much sense. 

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I've mostly felt like an outsider, and I couldn't seem to figure out why. I was identified gifted as a kid, and then in 2024, I discovered I'm ADHD and autistic. It was such a relief to have some explanation for why I'd felt so different for so long, and it helped me stop feeling bad about all the things that make me me. 

 

That discovery continues opening up whole new perspectives for me. I understand myself better, feel more at home in my curiosity, and it's been life changing to shift from managing and controlling myself within the status quo to being in a relationship with myself. To be human.

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I became a life coach because I want to help people get to know, understand, and be in relationship with themselves, their lives, their work, and their humanity. After almost ten years of coaching, this has stayed the backbone of my work. I want to tend the fullest expression of this life with courage and care, and that has nothing to do with productivity or optimization. I support other people who want to do that too. 

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I've been sober since 2012. Not drinking is the backbone of my life, and from the beginning I created my own unconventional approach to sobriety and recovery.

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I've never had a typical 9-to-5 career, and I didn't end up with any degrees, although I've taken a lot of classes. I'm an independent scholar and lifelong learner. I'm always reading several things, taking a couple classes, following questions, or trying things out.

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I'm usually reading, writing, making art, sewing, backpacking, and spending time outside. I love talking about humanity, life, work, relationships, communication, leadership, nature, ideas, and systems. I love learning about people and what it's like to be them.

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I'm 55 years old and I live in Durham, North Carolina, with my family and two cats.