Rebelling

This is me at Duke Gardens March 19, 2024- totally unaware that in April I'd be diagnosed with ADHD, and then in October I'd be diagnosed with autism. 

What I did know that day was that I had just gone through what my therapist thought was a bout of depression and spring was making me feel both hopeful and annoyed.

Here's a bit about me:

🍓I'm 54 years old. I'm a queer, white, able bodied late-diagnosed  AuDHD human. I was identified gifted as a child. I live in Durham, NC, USA. I have 2 children (both ND)- one young adult, one teen, and 2 cats- Rosie and Nellie. I've been married for 21 years, my husband (also ND!) and I have lived separately since 2020.(I moved out 2 weeks before the pandemic started!)We are dear friends and decided we'd just stay married because of things like health insurance and tax purposes. 

🥰I've been sober and in recovery since December 7, 2012. I put together my own unconventional recovery. I write a blog about it called Soberbia.(find older posts here) Sobriety is the backbone of my life. 

📚I love reading, learning, writing, running in the woods, and when someone else makes the food. Cloudy dreary days are my favorite. (Sunny days are so pushy! lol) I love talking to other humans about humans, learning about people and what their lives and experience of life is like, and helping them figure out how to feel a sense of belonging and well being.

🤓I have never had a 9-5 job, and I don't have a degree, even though I've taken a lot of classes. I'm fortunate to have a unique perspective when it comes to questioning long-standing corporate structures and deeply rooted social constructs. I am an independent scholar and lifelong learner. I love studying, learning, wondering about the human experience and how we can remember our complexity, rejoin the natural world, and understand that we are not merely machines. I did my coach training with IPEC and got my certification in 2017; I have a PCC from the ICF if you're into letters for things like that. :)

🦄I have felt different from other people all my life, and up until 2024 I didn't understand why, so I just kept trying harder. I didn't get why what was important to other people wasn't important to me, why I couldn't just be 'normal'. Discovering my ADHD and autism and then learning more about AuDHD and giftedness is giving me the room I need to stop trying so hard to fit in. Now I'm learning how to be myself.

And...Trying harder was never going to work for me because I was trying harder in a system that wasn't made with me in mind!  My 9 years of coaching experience, over 12 years of sobriety and recovery, 20 years of parenting, a lifetime of self driven learning, and my neurodivergent experience provides an uncommon and fresh perspective. I'm in it with you, and I’m doing my own work too. I read, learn, and study all the time and it's why I made Rebelling- so I can share all of it with other people- like you 😊
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